Talking to loved ones about advanced care

Plan on having the “talk” sooner rather than later. Prepare for the conversation by creating a list of your concerns. Start by asking questions, kindly and calmly:

If you get injured or sick, where would you go? How would you pay for it? Are you lonely sometimes? Would you like to spend more time with people your own age?

Be a good listener, too. While discussing this  sensitive topic, make it clear that you respect your loved one’s wishes. They will likely have anxiety about moving out of their home. Be sure to acknowledge those feelings and ask questions so that you better understand their reservations.

Which type of care facility is best?

Your conversation about advanced care should  include a discussion of the options:

• Independent living is for those who are still able to live independently but may need access to occasional assistance.
• Assisted living is typically for seniors who are having trouble with daily activities at home and need ongoing healthcare assistance.
• Skilled nursing facilities (nursing homes) are licensed healthcare facilities regulated by a state’s Department of Health Services. Skilled nursing care involves trained professionals performing services needed due to an injury or illness.
• Memory care is provided in a facility by a staff specially trained to address the unique issues of people with dementia or Alzheimer’s.
• Personal care offers housing, meals, and assistance with medications and personal care tasks, but does not include skilled health care  services.

Once you determine which type of care is right for your loved one, plan to visit a facility together to see what they offer. While it may be unsettling, moving to assisted care can actually help improve your loved one’s independence and overall quality of life.

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